How to chat with a girl you just met?
Chatting skills with girls you just met 1. Contact actively.
Just met once, even if the girls don't dislike you, they will not contact you on their own initiative, nor will they send you messages and call you frequently. It's not that girls are too reserved, but that girls are more self-protective. If they don't know much about it, girls would rather wait and see than move on. Therefore, we must take the initiative to contact girls first, and don't stare at other people's heads every day.
Chatting skills with girls you just met II. Say hello every day.
People say they like a girl, and whether that girl can accept you or not, they must try their best to pursue it, even if it is dead. These theories seem a little "new", but sometimes they are very useful. Even if the girl you like doesn't talk to you much, you should insist on saying hello every day. At least let the girl's world insist on having you.
Chatting skills with girls you just met Third, don't make a long speech.
No matter whether this girl has feelings for you or not, few people like long speeches on WeChat, including other chat tools, especially about love. I once had a good friend on the Internet. I guess he has a crush on me (blushes) I used to just say hello every day, but I wrote a lot of long poems every day. After a long time, I feel a little impatient. No matter how many languages you write, it is better to write a simple sentence: remember to put on more clothes when the weather changes, or don't always stay up late and pay attention to your health.
Chatting skills with girls you just met Fourth, don't be glib.
It is true that girls like sweet talk, but it depends on who said it and when. I only met you once, but you used up all your sweet words. Even the best girl will doubt you: how many times have you said it? It always gives people a sense of unease. So, don't flatter that girl with sweet words, say hello every day and tell her to take care, that's all.
Chatting with girls you just met 5. Don't be impatient.
Although I have only met the girl I like once, everyone wants to hold her in his arms and look for that sureness and warmth. But we only met once, and we don't work together on weekdays. Both sides lack understanding, how can they win the beauty back so quickly? Take your time no matter how much you like it. Don't be in a hurry to date someone else, or you will scare the girls away.
Chatting with girls you just met 6. End the topic in time.
Even if you like other girls again, you should remember that girls may not fall in love with you at first sight as you like her. If she doesn't belong to you for the time being, she will have her own life and social circle and may not be willing to spend a lot of time chatting with you. So, when you find that girls reply to your information like this, is it "hmm", "hehe" or "right"?
Chatting with girls you just met 7. Don't leave comments at will.
Even couples should pay attention to leaving messages or comments on the Internet, including WeChat and QQ, not to mention that you just met someone once. Even if you think of her as your future bride, it's just your own idea, right? So when you see her dynamics, you can pay attention and talk to her privately, but don't leave her messages or comments at will, which will make a girl very disgusted.
Chatting skills with girls you just met 8. Be polite, be polite.
Many boys like to use some "rough" language when chatting. These words are only said to my buddies. When chatting with a girl you like, never use it, not a word. I don't know you very well. You swear on wechat. Think about it. What girl won't be scared away by you? Don't pretend to be gentle, at least be polite and not rude, and remember to chat with humor occasionally. After all, humorous boys are very popular with girls.
Chatting with girls you just met. 9. Pull out more topics.
Many boys and girls who have just met once or several times, despite their good feelings, don't know what to say when they can really chat, so that they stare at each other and worry, but the other party is waiting for you for no reason. In fact, this is normal, because people are afraid of getting close to each other, but it is always bad. Therefore, when chatting, you must not be cold. Today, we can talk about each other's affairs, talk about each other's hobbies, ask girls what they like and get to know each other, right?
Chatting skills with girls I just met 10. Keep some mystery.
This is a "mistake" that boys and girls who have just fallen in love often make. In fact, it is not a mistake, because it is a very sincere symbol, but there are also many boys and girls who just have some feelings and terminate all contacts because they are outspoken. Love needs sincerity and sincerity, but it can't be so transparent. For example, young couples who just have feelings like to ask you how many times you have been in love. You can't lie about this question, but you can't say it in detail. You think that if you speak in detail, the other party will think that you are sincere, but at the same time, you will feel uncomfortable. So, you can't just say anything.
How to find a topic when chatting with girls?
First, start from life.
After listening to the menu of a recent home-cooked dish, I started the topic and finally returned to life. Whether in reality or on the internet, the weather is always a topic, and it is a handy topic. From today's weather to last week's weather, from last week to the first few months, from the first few months to the first few years, these topics that can be seen everywhere in your life can make the conversation between you more and more interesting.
Second, logical dialogue.
Men's logic is summative and problem-solving logic. When two men chat, the content of the chat will be less and less. Because in the process of chatting, with the casual solution of the problem, the topic gradually disappears. We explain the logical thinking differences between men and women through two paragraphs.
(1) My girlfriend told her boyfriend that when I went shopping in the afternoon, I saw a skirt that was particularly beautiful, and then I ate snacks and thought it was beautiful. And the man's answer is: "Where? how much is it? No, buy it! "
(2) Two middle-aged women with children are chatting downstairs. One of them said that my children are naughty and always wake me up at night. Another said that my family, too, always likes to play with some unclean things. ...
In the first example, the boyfriend's answer is a typical logical dialogue, pointing to solving problems. It is easy to talk about the topic until it is interrupted. The content is emotionless and boring. The second example is the logic of girls. Every sentence in the chat is state+feeling, which can make the topic go on better.
Third, pay attention to your expression.
There are two aspects here, one is not to use modal particles, and the other is not to contain too much information in a sentence. Specifically, it is modal particles, such as, oh, what, yo, ah and so on. It will make you look less masculine, and girls don't like very girly boys and feel insecure. Therefore, when dating, don't appear such a sentence: You are dressed beautifully today! Or do you want something to eat? Be careful! Remember not to step on the minefield. In addition, it is best to express one meaning in a sentence, and the amount of information should not be too much. For example, I just came home from the library and am going to attend the 9: 30 party. You see, we can extract at least four messages from this sentence: library, home, 9: 30, party. What do girls think when they hear this? She will be very confused about what you want to express, so it is best for you to say a sentence with only one meaning and not to confuse the other party.
How to chat to increase goodwill?
First, chat time.
1, just met, don't send messages too often.
The girl you just met is not very familiar, so it's good to be friends, so be interesting, don't chat with each other too often, and try to get to know the girl first through a circle of friends.
2. Choose the chat time according to the other person's circle of friends.
Chatting with girls in each other's free time is only possible to get a reply. After all, girls don't like being disturbed when they are working or doing things, so how do you know when the other person is free? First, from 8: 00 pm to 1 1 pm, it is a relatively free time for women; Second, according to the time when a girl sends a circle of friends, when a girl uploads a picture in a circle of friends, she will definitely retouch it first. You can also talk to a girl at this time.
3. How long does each call take?
(1) When chatting with a girl you just met, you should pay attention to the time of chatting, and don't talk for too long, so that you will have no mystery in front of the girl, and she will have no desire to explore you; (2) Take the initiative to end the chat before the break, which is a careful embodiment; (3) When you don't know what to post, end the topic in time, and don't let you have nothing to say in the chat.
Second, the topic of chat.
Of course, when chatting with girls, we should choose topics that girls are more interested in and understand. Don't let a chat turn into a person talking. We can choose topics according to each other's circle of friends. For example, if a girl keeps a pet, you can talk about how good your pet is. Girls usually talk about their pets. * * * Friends with you, places you have been, etc. , can be used as a choice to chat with girls.
You can't finish chatting with the girl you just met.
1, feelings
When chatting with a girl you just met, you should be careful not to talk about emotional things, such as your ex's or the other's emotional history, which will make girls dislike you.
2. Too specific questions
For example, a girl's work, salary and family problems can be discussed but not too deeply. After all, you just met, and you're not her boyfriend.
3. Topics full of negative energy
If you chat with a girl you have just known for a long time and always complain about the negative energy of work and life, it will make the girl think that you are a person who only complains about no initiative.