Knowing that thinking is the projection and generalization of the real world, then all thinking comes from the real world? I understand yes, but it can still be divided into two categories, one is from one's own feelings; The other is the expression of thinking from other individuals. In other words, one comes from one's own experience and the other comes from the experience of others. My own experience is easy to understand, and there are many sources of personal experience and other people's experiences, such as directly teaching and recording knowledge in non-current environment through books and so on.
Let me talk about my own experience first. There is a saying that it is better to read thousands of books than to take Wan Li Road. I understand that this trip to Wan Li Road is to increase my experience. Regardless of the verification function of Wan Li Road, I only say that it is knowledgeable on the one hand. These experiences are all from personal experience, and I feel very shallow on paper and don't know how to do it. Personal experience is a kind of physical feeling and the result of communication between the body and the outside world. This feeling flows between the body and the outside world, and there may be two trends. The first thing is to think, describe and define this feeling with words and phrases, so that it can communicate with others and make it possible for others to understand it. Many ancient poems we have read, such as Three thousands of feet, are suspected to be the nine-day sunset of the Milky Way. For example, the lotus leaves are infinitely green the next day, and the lotus flowers reflect differently in the sun. These poems accurately describe the scene at that time and also describe the author's mood at that time. However, it is worth noting that if we only take it literally, we will feel trapped in poetry. If you can present the picture of the poem in your mind, plus the change of time and space, that feeling is that you have surpassed the poem and become your own thing. The second is to leave the memory in the unconscious through the body. Only when a similar environment appears again will similar emotions appear. This is the so-called feeling of touching the scene and thinking about others. This feeling or emotion without thinking through the brain is the real reaction of your body to the surrounding environment or relations (including people). Maybe sometimes, you will feel that your thoughts are inconsistent with the so-called true feelings, or even the opposite. Reason (thinking) tells us that it is wrong to do so. We can judge according to our own thinking and then act, but I suggest paying attention to your feelings, which may be the true self. According to Freud's theory, people are divided into id, superego and ego. What we really show is the ego, which is the balance point between the ID (acting completely according to one's instinct) and the superego (acting completely according to the expectations of social norms). Depending on the surrounding environment, the ego will keep swinging after the ID and the superego. The true self may not be tolerated by social norms, but you have to accept yourself.
Personal experience, although the feeling is real, but this feeling is only their own feelings about the current environment. This feeling is very limited. Under normal circumstances, try not to delay the application to others. The most typical example is that your mother thinks you are cold and makes you wear long pants. This confirms the sentence, who knows who is cold, but you feel cold and others feel cold is not the same, this feeling should also be decided according to personal physique and knowledge. Self-experience summary, extended to others, may implicate others. If children's parents adopt this kind of education, it will undoubtedly have a negative impact on their independent thinking and freedom of action, so that children can ignore their feelings or live a life inconsistent with their feelings. This kind of repression may make children afraid to express their ideas in later life, which may lead to inferiority. If this kind of self-experience extends to people who have their own strength, if the other person has avoidant personality, that is, people who have been influenced by their parents since childhood, it may be smoother, because both sides are in relatively familiar positions. If the other person is a person with strong enthusiasm for ideological independence and freedom of action, then he may encounter fierce resistance, because he has enough strength, so he does not have to wronged himself for fear of consequences. The expression of this feeling, as far as possible, need not be extended, just put forward your own views or experiences, and can not force others to accept it. This is also the minimum respect for others.
Tell me about your experience from others. There are only two kinds of experiences that others can think of, one is the present, and the other is the history (not sure whether there is a future). Current experience can basically be gained through mutual exchange. There is also historical experience, which can only be obtained through books. Some of the contents contained in this kind of books can't be experienced by personal experience, because what you can experience personally can only exist now (with the development of technology, VR technology may immerse you in the needs of history), and books (books, as the only communication medium around 2000, should record a lot of experiences. In fact, the explosion of knowledge in the last two decades is more precisely the surge of information. Not all information is knowledge) The recorded content may allow you to travel back and forth just by visiting for more than 2,000 years, and get to know the people, events, sights and so on (records) in each time period. In addition to the amount of knowledge deposited, this special knowledge is also a special record in the book.
Because the source of thinking may be personal experience or other people's experience, which makes me think about whether thinking is my own or others'? Is the feeling of personal experience and the thinking formed by oneself entirely your own? I can only say that the feeling is your own, and the way of thinking you use to summarize may be taught by others, or it may be a way of thinking formed by yourself according to the surrounding environment or social traditions. This is your own, but it is hard to say that it is not influenced by others. Once influenced by others, it is hard to say that thinking is your own. I watched The Beginning of the Great Renaissance yesterday, and there was a bridge in it. Chen Duxiu and Li Dazhao mentioned in a debate between Peking University and Mr. Gu Hongming that it is good to learn from Japan, Europe, America and Russia, as long as it suits our country. Kind of ignoring the feeling of black cats and white cats. Generally speaking, Mr. Gu Hongming said that the system is the precipitation of many years of culture in various countries. This is our own, but is this our own suitable for us? If you can't meet specific questions, is it really meaningful to think about the answers here?
The communication of thinking is generally through language and words, or by transforming the specific pictures you encounter into languages and words that you can understand, and ultimately it is to be processed into symbolic signals that your own thinking can understand. The biggest advantage of text communication is that it is easy to spread. Physical feelings, in addition to being described as words, can also be spread through expressions, tones, emotions and other ways. , but also requires the recipient's perception ability to reach the corresponding level. By the way, someone graded the way of communication. The best way to communicate is face to face (video), followed by telephone (voice) and text (email or WeChat, etc.). ). Because mood and expression often contain too much information, perhaps only 30% of the information is conveyed by words, and the other 70% depends on non-verbal content such as mood and expression. Even if we communicate face to face with language, when you concentrate on each other, you will feel the same way with each other, and you will feel her feelings, just as if you are integrated with him, and you will experience deeper feelings besides language. If the interlocutor is not reminded, it may be a deep expression that he may not be aware of. For example, I heard a story that someone described a very sad thing, but the listener felt a sense of happiness when he listened. Later, when communicating with the narrator, he also admitted that he was in a very happy state.
Thinking can communicate. This is the way of thinking connection. Controlling others with thinking seems to be a very sci-fi thing, but there are many specific cases in history that clearly show this phenomenon-people's thinking is controlled. In other words, the thinking at that time was not your own. Especially ZJ can best reflect this point. What is ZJ? According to the encyclopedia's explanation, ZJ is a cultural phenomenon that appears at a certain historical stage of the development of human society and belongs to a special social ideology. Fundamentally speaking, ZJ is a cultural phenomenon. Of course, it cannot be said that all cultural phenomena are ZJ, but other non-ZJ cultural phenomena can also be replaced by a concrete one. This is not an essential problem. Ask yourself more boldly, are many excellent traditions proved by historical experience really my own, as my life standard, behavior guide and indestructible belief in my heart? Yes, part of it is. Which part is it? It was my own thinking, and it was proved to be feasible under the conditions at that time after the test of personal experience. There is a saying, which has actually been recognized by many people, that is, practice is the only criterion for testing truth. In today's topic, it can be adjusted that physical experience is the only criterion for testing thinking. Thinking is a generalization and summary of physical experience, which can be verified by exhaustive method, because even if only one physical experience does not conform to one's own thinking, it can be reflected and corrected. What is a physical connection? What I can understand at present is the empathy mentioned above. The method is to concentrate, understand each other's emotions, expressions and feelings, and achieve emotional integration. This is my understanding of physical connection.
Let's talk about what mind reading is. Some people say that a person's past and future can be known by his face. I didn't believe this at first, but with the update of knowledge, I think it's not impossible. Sometimes I feel that a person's experience is as obvious as a piece of paper stuck to his face. I used to think it was mysterious, but I have long judged (or been judged by others) that it has become a superstition, so I no longer believe it. With the constant updating of knowledge and skills, we can understand the personality and corresponding experience of others through their expressions, actions and emotions. There is a saying that personality determines fate, but in fact, it is mainly choice that determines fate. Personality determines your choice or opportunity in each time period. When you have enough knowledge and skills, you should be able to infer your past and future. Since personality determines fate, will fate change after personality changes? There is a saying that a leopard cannot change his spots. I'm not sure if I can change my personality. I can talk about the steps to change personality, or just part of it. First of all, if you want to change your personality, you must be clear about your personality. Be aware of yourself, stand outside yourself and see what you look like. I feel that this is not standing opposite to myself, just like a mirror, but standing next to myself, which may be more objective from the perspective of a third party. This is just my feeling, not the result of thinking, and maybe it can be used as a reference. After realizing yourself, use your body and emotions to understand the behavior caused by your personality. If you don't feel uncomfortable, it means that this personality is the real you.
What about high emotional intelligence and low emotional intelligence?
High EQ means that when people are in a binary relationship or a ternary relationship, they behave so that all parties are not embarrassed. While expressing your own views (completely different from others'), it doesn't make people feel embarrassed. Getting along with people with high emotional intelligence will make others feel comfortable. This kind of comfort is not blind retreat and tolerance, but in the case of clear boundaries, it makes all parties feel comfortable. Is the level of emotional intelligence related to thinking? I think so, but there is still a premise that we can feel the feelings of others. With this premise, it's our turn to think and act according to our own or others' experience and make others feel comfortable. If you can't empathize with other people's feelings, you can only see superficial things. No matter how high the IQ is, no matter how fast the thinking is, it may not touch the innermost things, which will make others feel uncomfortable. It can be said that physical connection, that is, empathy, is a necessary condition for high emotional intelligence. Actually, you can think so. High emotional intelligence or low emotional intelligence is only a description of a certain phenomenon or relationship. The most fundamental thing is whether the relationship can be done well. This is the main point we should pay attention to, instead of judging whether your EQ is useless as a critic afterwards. When others say that your emotional intelligence is low, what he means should be that some of your actions make others feel unhappy. This unhappiness is not because you refuse or resist this behavior, but because you don't put yourself in the other person's shoes. Having said that, I think it is very simple to be a man, that is, to take care of others' feelings while achieving your own goals. Is it that simple? Yes, the steps are so simple, but just like the same ingredients (problems), the same recipes (processing methods), but the dishes (results) made by different people are different. I don't know what is needed to bridge the gap between people. All I know now is to get close to the state I want through my constant time. Maybe everyone takes a different path, but the goal is the same. Although you may not reach the same height, you can still aspire to it, but you can also help others more and make yourself less sorry.