The difference between men and women is related to physiological factors. The Atlanta Psychiatric Institute conducted a study and found that human blood contains chemicals that can induce mental impulses and inhibit impatience. One of the chemicals is called norepinephrine, and the other is called serum Tylenol. Adrenaline can make people fidgety, easily excited and full of provocative psychology; Serum Thai can inhibit emotional impatience and make people appear amiable and docile. Generally speaking, everyone has the content of these two substances in their blood. Among the 85% women surveyed, the serum Tylenol content is higher than that of men. On the contrary, in 80% of men, the content of norepinephrine is higher than that of women, thus revealing the mystery that women are gentler than men.
Physiologists believe that a woman can attract men, not only because of her beauty or graceful figure, but also because her body surface will exude a charming atmosphere. This is inseparable from the role of sex hormones. Men and women in love are full of sex hormones, and women's body surface will exude a delicate fragrance that will make men dump. This smell attracts men and women like an invisible bond. There is a man named Kiwell in America. Although his appearance is not amazing, he has won the favor of many women. The researcher asked a woman who was dating, "What is the attraction of Kiwell?" Answer: "He always has an indescribable attractive smell." This is the magical function of male pheromones. Physicians also found that in girls' schools, young girls live together for a long time, and many people have irregular menstruation, so drug treatment is ineffective. Strangely, after some girls secretly go out on a date with boys, their irregular menstruation will get better. Some people call this phenomenon "girl dormitory syndrome". Coincidentally, almost all Australian researchers who have been to the Antarctic suffer from a strange disease: insomnia, forgetfulness and drowsiness all day. Scholars to investigate, the result is a serious imbalance, is the result of the lack of heterosexual pheromones. To this end, researchers warn people to pay attention to the mixing of men and women in their daily work and study in order to give full play to the magical use of sex pheromones.
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For a husband, sexual rejection means that the whole rejection is the main form that men give-a way to express themselves emotionally and physically. When your husband is sexually active to you, he often does more than he says, and he will constantly subconsciously say "please accept me". If you refuse him, he will not hear "I'm tired" or "not now", but will interpret these words as "I don't love you, I don't need you, and you don't agree with me." If you often refuse him, he will simply stop courting, or worse, he will move on and seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
Don't completely refuse your husband's sexual request. This does not mean that you should always promise him, but that you should understand his weakness. You can comfort him with such words: "honey, I love you, but my work has put too much pressure on me, and I am a little nervous, so I can't satisfy you in the way I hope now." Can we hug for a while and then see if I feel better? "In other words: if you are not in the mood for sex, you can refuse him, but you must show him that you love him, so that he will feel better. After the two sides share some love, you may find that you are finally in the mood.
Men often play the role of "sex offenders". When a woman dares to show that she likes sex, men like to play this role. When a man always plays an active role, he always risks being rejected. He will love you more, because you will risk rejection from time to time, and you will understand why it is so important for him that you can accept his proposal sensitively.
Women who lack a sense of humor will bore men. People often say to little girls, don't laugh wildly and don't always do stupid tricks. That's against women's morality. In daily life, if someone behaves badly, people will not take her seriously.
However, joking is a way for men to relax. Men are often too hard on themselves. They often feel the pressure brought by the responsibility on their shoulders and the desire for success, so they really need to laugh to relax themselves. Therefore, when your husband tries to play a joke and you refuse to participate, he will think that you are belittling him and deliberately show that you are better and smarter than him. He may feel uneasy in his heart, fearing that you have been secretly judging and evaluating his behavior and ability, especially in bed. At this time, you may also remind him of the image of a primary school teacher, his mother or some other female authority. In this way, it is difficult for him to regard you as an object that can arouse his sexual love.
Learn to laugh at yourself and play a joke with the old, and you will have more fun. You will help your husband relax his nervous nerves, stimulate his excitement and get pleasure.
Physiologically, erection is not a prelude to sex. When a man has an erection, it doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to have sex. Erection is caused by a large amount of blood flowing into the reproductive organs. The driving factor may be sexual impulse, but it may also be physiological change from sleep state to awakening state; The bladder is full or rubbed by tights.
If your husband's erection means that he is sexually stimulated, it may bring you some problems. For example, you will feel a kind of pressure on how to satisfy him, even though he may not be in the mood for sex at the moment. When you are not sure, you can ask your husband what he wants. For example, if he turns over and hugs you before getting up in the morning, you can ask him, do you want to have sex? Or just want to hug and lie down for a while. At this time, he will make a choice with a relieved mood, and you will get a relief.
Men usually don't like to talk during sex. Have you ever tried to get a man to talk to you when he is doing bills or watching sports reports? Many times, he may yell angrily, "Don't talk to me! I can hardly concentrate on my work! " On the other hand, most women can easily do several things at the same time, such as watching TV with relish while chatting on the phone, or mediating children's quarrels while cooking according to recipes.
Studies show that men tend to use a specific hemisphere at a specific time-either the left hemisphere that controls the function of the language system or the right hemisphere that controls the visual system and spatial positioning function. It seems that a woman's two hemispheres can work at the same time. This may just explain why talking during sex is natural to you, but not to him. Sometimes what you say in sex can't be answered by your husband, and you may feel rejected and used, but in fact, he may be too tightly controlled by the activities of the right hemisphere of the brain to listen to you at all.
Ask your husband how he feels about talking in bed. He may say that when you speak or ask you questions, he will feel a pressure to respond. However, once the conversation disturbed his passionate mood, he would rather lie there quietly. Of course, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't speak, but if he doesn't respond to your conversation, you don't have to be disappointed.
Men get excited by visual stimuli. Men are more susceptible to visual stimuli, while women are more susceptible to language stimuli. This is why men read pornographic magazines for sexual stimulation, while women read romance novels. This means that the main reason for your husband's sexual impulse is your appearance. This also explains why even a man with a happy marriage and a happy sex life will appreciate and praise other women without feeling any emotional turmoil.
If you want to make your husband happy in new and different ways, you can wear some sexy underwear occasionally. Similarly, if you are used to having sex in bright light, try to keep it that way or light candles around the room.
Knowing and understanding these secrets about men and sex will help you and your husband create a richer and more satisfying love life and make your's marriage more perfect on the whole.