There is a word called guest. At present, things and things have the same meaning, but in ancient times, things and things were different. In ancient times, people who visited friends and relatives, asked for a visit, exchanged small talk and brought some gifts home were called guests. Those who come to the door empty-handed and don't bring any gifts call guests.
That's why there are such proverbs as Yingbin Building, Yingbin Road, Yingbin Avenue, Hotel, VIP, etc. But rarely see the guest house and the guest house. Because this is the concept handed down from our ancestors, that is, "guest" is good and "guest" is not as good as guest. Bing, show some respect, guest, and belittle. The reason is that "Bin" came with a gift and "Guest" came empty-handed.
Were our ancestors so snobbish? So greedy for money Even people who come to the door should be treated as guests and guests according to whether they bring gifts or not.
No, no. Our ancestors were much simpler and more sensible than we modern people, otherwise there would be no historical conclusion that "people's hearts are not ancient." How could our ancestors care about gifts and gifts? Of course not!
In fact, our ancestors paid attention to the truth, but whether everyone's behavior conformed to the principle of fairness and equality.
When a person visits other people's homes, whether chatting nonsense or asking for study, others will entertain him, which actually takes up other people's time and energy. Not only that, sometimes this person has to go to other people's homes for dinner. These are all troubles for others, consuming others' time and life. Therefore, in order to express his apology and gratitude, that is, to embody the principle of fairness and equality, this person will bring some gifts to compensate the other party when he comes to the door, expressing his mind and seeking peace of mind.
This is the original reason why people bring some gifts when visiting relatives and friends. Gifts are actually "managing things" and "gifts" are "reasonable things", that is, if you bring these things to your door, you will have "reason" and you will meet the "reason" of justice and equality.
Therefore, the ancients respected "Bin" because they thought that "Bin" knew the truth, "Bin" knew how to be grateful, "Bin" knew how to follow the principle of equality and associate with people, and "Bin" knew how to respect people.
With the evolution of history, later people confused the guest with the guest and no longer distinguished them, so they forgot the truth of being a man given by their ancestors in these two words. In other words, people remember to bring some gifts to their relatives, friends and colleagues' homes (not to be guests), but people forget why they should bring gifts. People just think that bringing some gifts to their families will make them look good, sensible and decent. If they go home empty-handed, it is impolite and a little embarrassing.
Of course, as for those "guests" who always disturb others, always eat and drink, and always take advantage of others, it is nothing to take for granted that they come to the door empty-handed, which is beyond the scope of our discussion today, so I won't say much here.
In short, to maintain a balance in interpersonal relationships means to abide by the principle of equality, that is, neither deliberately taking advantage of others nor deliberately letting others take advantage of us. So, yes!