Action gesture is an independent and effective symbolic language, which can strengthen the power of language and enrich the tone of language. If you want to mediate a dispute, your head is one of the main objects of the other party's concentrated observation. Therefore, it is particularly important to do a good job of head movements. You can show your approval or opposition to his views by nodding and shaking your head. For example, you can give a thumbs-up to show a positive evaluation of a problem or someone; You can also hold your hands in a circle to express symbolic meanings such as "encirclement" or "unity". You reach out one hand, tap a finger with the other hand, which means "first", tap another, which means "second", and so on. Playing with the pencil in your hand, tapping the desktop with your fingers, combing your hair with your fingers, or adjusting your skirt and patting your head are often used to coordinate the atmosphere in some tense situations. Your gestures can also make up for the lack of spoken English and increase the weight of colored language. For example, when you are in a good mood, you often unconsciously raise your hand and wave it in the air; When you are sad, you can't help bending down, holding your head and making your body round; You can't help punching when you are angry.

Some people have concluded that common gestures can be divided into three categories: lifting, pressing and translating. There are two kinds: two hands and one hand; Each type is divided into fist type, palm type, elbow bending type and wrist turning type. Raising hands, moving forward and inward often express positive contents such as hope, success and affirmation; Hands downward, backward and outward often express negative contents such as criticism, contempt and negation. For example, splitting hands in the air means "resolute and decisive"; Shake your hands slightly to show "contempt" or "indifference"; Spread your hands forward to express "helplessness"; Raise your fist and cut it off from the floor to show indignation or determination, etc. Therefore, it is important to control gestures.

Language mood is the expression form of speech, not the speech itself, and changeable language mood can enhance the clarity of speech information. For example, you say to the object of dispute, "Stop it!" If the pronunciation of this sentence is strong and fast, it will reflect the anger and have the meaning of command; If the voice of this sentence is low and slow, it reflects the feeling of fear and has the meaning of pleading.

The role of language mood can not be ignored, it should be a direct reflection of your different emotional States, thus enhancing the expressive force and appeal of emotions.

Italian movie star Rossi once attended a banquet attended by foreign guests. When the guest asked him to improvise a tragedy, he read a line in Italian. Although the guests didn't understand, they couldn't help crying when they heard his sad tone and saw his painful expression. During the dinner, an Italian ran out of the hall and laughed in the corridor. So what lines did Rosie recite, but the menu of the party.

There are various intonations. Soft, low-pitched, sonorous, slow and balanced slightly rising tone, expressing admiration; A soft tone indicates frankness and friendliness; A low voice expresses sincerity and sympathy.

As a rule, when you talk about happy things with each other, you should use bright and bright tone; When arguing or encouraging each other, you should use a voice twice or several times higher than when answering questions and comforting each other.

Phonetic tones are mainly reflected in five aspects: ① speed-the speed of speaking; (2) Volume-the size of the sound; 3 pitch-the level of sound; (4) Tone-the change of sound; ⑤ Sound quality-harmony of sound. Fast speech, generally used to express anxiety, anger, excitement, excitement and other emotions, rapid speech, can make the speaker have a high degree of psychology and urgency; But the speed is too fast, people can't receive your output information, the last sentence hasn't been reacted, and you don't have time to think and digest, so you can't understand what you want to express. Slow, generally used to express depression, sadness, thinking and other emotions. The slow pace allows the other person to savor and have a deep feeling; But it's no good being too slow. On the one hand, it wastes time, on the other hand, it will make the other party listless. They have lost interest in what you say before listening to you. Always shouting will give people a sense of aggression; Talking in a low voice all the time may make people feel kind and relaxed, but the volume is too low, which may also make people unable to hear clearly. Loud and harsh voice can easily stimulate people's nerves to be too nervous; A deep and rude voice can paralyze people's nerves. Express your interest and enthusiasm cadently, and convey your ever-changing emotions flexibly and accurately. If the sound is harmonious and beautiful, pure and pleasing to the ear, the other party is willing to listen: the harsh and hoarse voice is either artificial or harsh and unwilling to accept it.

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The role of language mood can not be ignored, it should be a direct reflection of your different emotional States, thus enhancing the expressive force and appeal of emotions.