Actually, this is a headache for many young parents. My friend is also having a headache about who will look after the children recently. Both parents have their own reasons for not coming. The child is only four years old. Not to mention whether there is money to hire a nanny, even if there is money, people who are not particularly trusted dare not entrust their children.
At that time, we had no parents to look after the children, so we got through it day by day.
My wife and I were working together at that time, and my mother-in-law and mother-in-law could not leave their hometown to take care of their children in Beijing.
My daughter will start working in four months. My best friend who lives in the same community is a full-time mother. Her daughter is three years older than mine. Besides, my sister goes to school in Beijing. They take turns to take care of my children during the day, and I take care of myself after work. If they don't have time, I will ask for leave. Because of frequent leave, I didn't get a promotion in those years and didn't get a bonus at the end of the year. But at that time, as long as the leader gave me leave, I was very happy.
This is why my daughter gave it to kindergarten when she was two and a half years old. As long as the kindergarten accepted it, she was the youngest child in the garden at that time. Although we are reluctant, we all have to go to work, pay the mortgage and pay the tuition for another sister who goes to school. Life pressure is also great.
Our daughter was sent here after she went to kindergarten. In addition to my friends, I asked my neighbor's elder sister for help and gave her 400 yuan every month (in 2004). Whenever my sister, my friends and we are free, we will pick them up, but because our neighbor's sister is always on the bench, we are basically not worried about the problem of no one answering. Sometimes I don't need my sister several times a month, so I give money. Sometimes my sister insists on not asking for money, and I usually give her some gifts.
If you want to take care of children, it is more convenient to do business. After all, children are too young to take them to work.
In career, you can consider taking care of children at the same time. My sister has two children, Dabao is four years old and Bao Xiao is less than one year old. She opened a children's shop next to the community. She usually buys Bao Xiao's in the shop and closes the shop to pick him up after school. Although I earn less, I take care of both.
When children reach school age, it is easy to talk about holidays alone. My daughter has been working with me since primary school. She not only understood her mother's hard work, but also learned to copy, bind and keep a diary with the computer. She also gets along well with my colleagues and is dubbed as a part-time job. In junior high school, she can stay at home by herself. Now my daughter's self-care ability is very strong. She can not only take care of herself, but also help us cook dinner and do housework.
Ask parents whose children are older than you to see if there are any kindergarten classes around, or how to solve them if they are too busy. The experience of predecessors is worth learning.
Find trusted friends and neighbors, say hello in advance, and ask them for help in case you can't leave.
If you really can't find someone, you should consider the problem of picking up your children when looking for a job, try to go to work as early as possible, or deal with your work in advance when you go to work, and communicate with the unit leaders to explain why you can't work overtime.
After all, children only need a few years to communicate with their loved ones, who is responsible for making money and who is responsible for taking care of the baby.
Look, you said that there is a car loan in addition to the mortgage, which is very stressful. In fact, in the case that the economic ability is not very affluent, we can try our best to reduce unnecessary expenses and relieve the pressure.
You can still buy a car in the future, but children only grow up once. Try to give your child the most companionship.
I hope my suggestion can give you some inspiration. In any case, please believe that there are always more ways than problems, and things will eventually be solved.