People who need to accompany gifts are not limited to relatives and friends, classmates and colleagues, or even new friends. If we can get closer, as long as there is something at home, we will inform you to accompany us. The name has expanded from previous weddings, funerals, birth and death to today's birthday banquet, student banquet, full moon banquet, housewarming banquet, army banquet, birthday banquet and so on. And the amount is still increasing.
Is it true that the living standard has improved and life is better than before? But why don't you feel happier than in earlier years?
I remember more than ten years ago, fifty dollars with the gift was very good. Now I feel that I can't get a hundred dollars, and I have to start with two hundred dollars. With the vicious circle of ritual wind, there is a growing momentum. Others are housewarming, birthdays, family illness, opening a shop and other reasons. What should I do without these reasons at home for so many years? All right, just find a reason. The children at home are still at school, and the old man has not yet reached his eightieth birthday. What should I do? Then go to the sixtieth birthday office, which means nothing.
Let's give a few simple examples. My husband has a classmate who usually has no contact. After the Spring Festival, he gave birth to a second child. He held a full moon, opened a hotel a few days ago, and informed all his classmates that they must be in place, at the expense of 200 yuan every time. In less than half a year, 400 yuan was gone. I didn't mention it when I got married before, when my first child was full moon. Another mother-in-law who had an accident is going to celebrate her sixtieth birthday, and we also want to inform everyone to attend. I don't understand what this man is thinking. Everyone has a birthday and celebrates it every year. If you are 80 years old, it's worth it. After all, how many people can live to be 80? It is not easy. There is nothing wrong with handling it.
What is even more funny is that I was informed in the group of my husband's unit yesterday that a teacher's father-in-law died of illness and asked everyone to give the gift to the school, and someone was responsible for collecting it. The reason is that the teacher's father-in-law is not in the local area at all, and I am dizzy.
This unit is really United. It was supposed to be during the holiday, but there was no delay in sending gifts. Now with the gift, people don't meet each other, and money comes and goes, which makes people feel thin. What's the difference between this and robbing money? Just direct and indirect.
My husband loves face very much, and he will respond positively when he is notified. There are also colleagues in some units who don't cooperate, so some gossiping people talk about others behind their backs, such as being unsociable, stubborn, stingy and so on. I feel that such a person still has principles. What about people in their seventies and eighties? Do you want to participate in your own life? The husband, Nimra, was in famine and did not follow the ceremony. I often make my pockets cleaner than my face. Sometimes, I get angry when I hear all kinds of excuses he says. I asked him if he would arrange the next son of a bitch in your company. We disagree on the principle of doing things like him. I think, after all, it is shameful to live, and sometimes it is shameful to kill people.
At this age, there are old people and young people. We don't want to wronged the parents above, and we don't want to mistreat the children below, so we can only wronged ourselves, preferring to suffer by ourselves instead of following the rules. This is a truly respectable life. There are many weddings in May and November, student banquets in July and August, and military banquets in November and December. Hey! All kinds of banquets make me depressed.
I also attended several weddings when I visited relatives in Jiangsu and Shanghai a few years ago. I think the atmosphere in the south is relatively better than that in the north. It may be because they have a fast pace of life and are busy with work during the day. Usually people get married at home (being an official is another matter), that is, relatives and friends get together in the evening, say some blessings, have a cup of tea, eat sugar and be happy. This is an atmosphere. It's not like we started to hold a banquet three days before the wedding here, and it was not until the afternoon of the wedding that the talents were exhausted, which made the couple and their families exhausted. Some people don't have much left after they finish their business. The reason is that prices are very high everywhere now. It seems that they are receiving some gifts, but they have actually given the hotel and various expenses. This year, my grandmother is 90 years old and my father-in-law is 70 years old. My friends all say you should do that.
I will never do it, because I think others will have their own pressures and troubles, but they are embarrassed to say it, so I made a leading goose to say it for them. Long live understanding. Well, ordinary people want a plain life, a plain life, which is the best.
Nowadays, the prevalence of etiquette has brought great pressure to people (at least for me). Life is rich, and it is not bad to celebrate when you meet a happy event. However, this vicious trend of etiquette has evolved into a bad habit, which has affected people's thoughts and lives. When will the ritual wind stop? I don't know. I just hope that we don't burden the plain life in the so-called reciprocity.