Text/Yifang Whisper

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There is a story often heard. As long as fish is eaten at home, my mother will only eat fish heads. She said that she He loves to eat, so the child very wisely gave the fish head to his mother.

When the child grew up, his mother told him before she died, "Actually, I don't like to eat fish heads, I also like to eat fish. But in order to make you eat more fish, I said what I like to eat."

When I heard this story, I didn’t feel moved, but rather a little uncomfortable. This kind of self-sacrifice always smells like moral kidnapping.

Obviously the child also wants to eat what he likes with his mother, but in the end it turns into "I have paid so much for you, how great I am." And after she leaves, how will the children who know the truth face the rest of their lives?

This is the feeling of being beaten by love.

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When I was eating when I was a child, my parents put meat into my bowl and told me "this is called father's love" and "this is called mother's love". I always pick up the rice in the bowl and eat the piece of meat last. Because it makes me inexplicably heavy.

After I learned from TV that what my parents said they didn’t like to eat was actually to save it for you to eat, I would also give them a piece of whatever they wanted to eat in their bowls. My parents were very happy. happy. But except for the piece in the bowl, I almost stopped eating it.

Now, let’s make a very large dish of everyone’s favorite dish. However, my parents stopped eating after two bites, saying they had eaten enough. When I meet someone I particularly like and eat a few more bites, I will definitely leave the last few pieces for me to say they are full.

Whenever this happens, I feel powerless and helpless. On the one hand, I feel very happy about self-sacrifice; on the other hand, I feel that it is really stressful and why can’t I have a good meal?

In fact, I really want to see my parents eating happily and generously, just like they feel very happy when they see me eating happily.

Because I love them equally, and I also don’t want them to be wronged.

Only when parents are happy and the family atmosphere is good can children be happy. Uncontrolled love will cause psychological pressure on the child. How can he experience happiness and being loved?

Without restraint, love may turn into doting, and if there is too much pressure, it may turn into rebellion, which is not worth the gain.

Children will eventually have to face life independently, and teaching them life skills and principles of life is much more useful than unlimited love.

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I watched a Thai literary short film. The mother said, "I have never gone to school and don't know how to teach my daughter. The only thing I can do is to teach her Learn from life. ”

When the mother and her daughter were cutting fruit together, the daughter was worrying about how to cut the pineapple. My mother noticed it but didn't say anything. She put down the freshly cut mango, picked up a pineapple and started to cut it slowly. The daughter followed her mother's example and finally cut the pineapple.

The daughter was envious when she saw other children eating popsicles. The mother looked at the money box with only a few steel pendants, then cut the pineapple into a rectangular shape, inserted the popsicle sticks, and frozen it for her daughter to eat. .

My daughter thought it was delicious, and she thought it would be popular if she sold it. The mother was surprised by her suggestion. I thought they would start doing this, but when the camera turned, it was the daughter who was going out alone with an incubator to sell iced pineapples. Maybe I want my daughter to try it on her own and learn from practice.

As a result, even after the ice melted, they were not sold. My daughter asked why. Mom said, "You should go to the vegetable market and see how other people sell things."

After going to the vegetable market and observing the vendors, my daughter put an advertisement for iced pineapple on the incubator the next day and made up a hawking formula.

Since then, her ice pineapples have been selling better and better.

Finally, I got on my bicycle and as soon as I rang the bicycle bell, the children rushed up to buy pineapples, just like the original scene where a group of children bought popsicles.

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In the end, the girl was admitted to a prestigious university and changed her life.

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We all know that "it is better to teach a fish than to fish", and the same is true for the love parents have for their children.

Love should not be given unilaterally. This kind of love is too superficial.

"Parents love their children deeply." This is the best way to love their children.

Teach children survival skills and life principles, allowing them to experience and explore them in practice.

Independence will make children feel powerful and growing, which is the best motivation for them to continue working hard.

If you learn the method, you will be able to practice it better. The more you practice, the better methods you will get.

Love is like a pair of wings, sending children to higher places.

This is also what parents hope for most, isn’t it?