I worked hard to pick up my friend, but I didn't expect that he only paid his share of the last meal. Last August, a friend returned to Xiamen from Shanghai on business and took the plane. I was still at work after noon on 12. I got a call from him telling me that I couldn't get a taxi at Gao Qi airport. It's so hot that the whole person is very tired. He asked me if I was free to pick him up there by car.

At first, I was a little hesitant because I had a lot of work that day. Although I am a freelancer and can arrange my own time at any time, I usually don't run around on weekdays, but I will only choose to work down to earth.

But on second thought, I have known my friends for so long. He stayed alone at the airport and thought of me from many friends. He doesn't know what to do if I don't go again.

So, I readily agreed. After hanging up the phone, I put on my clothes and shoes and drove away. I live off the island, and it takes about 30 minutes to drive from Gao Qi Airport, which is quite far.

When I was ready to leave, I was afraid that my friend would wait too long, so I sent him a message, telling him to wait for me in a cool place first and asking him what water he would like to drink. He told me that he wanted to drink a bottle of coke, which was cold. For this reason, I specially bought him two bottles of water and a loaf of bread in the convenience store downstairs in the community. I think he just got off the plane and probably hasn't eaten yet, so I bought some bread pads to pad my stomach first.

Half an hour later, I finally drove to the exit of Gao Qi Airport. When I got there, I saw a lot of taxis parked next to me, thinking that there were not many people at noon, how could I not get a taxi? However, this idea stayed in my mind for a minute, and then disappeared immediately without much thought.

No sooner had I found a parking place than I saw my friend waving to me with a suitcase. I went over and exchanged pleasantries with him, then quickly helped him lift the box, and the two of them hurried into the car.

As soon as I got on the bus, the first thing I said was to ask him where he was going. Have you eaten? He told me that he wanted to go home and pack his bags first, and then go to eat. He hasn't eaten all morning, and he is too hungry.

I heard that he was hungry, so I quickly handed him the bread and water I had prepared. He opened the bag and ate it in a hurry. In this way, I drove for about 20 minutes and took him to Lucuo, where he lived.

I didn't go to his house, but waited for him downstairs. Because it was too hot, I didn't want to go outdoors, so I hid in the car and blew the air conditioner.

After about 10 minutes, he put his luggage home and got on the bus again. In this way, the two of us began to look for food. There's nothing to eat after looking for it for a long time. Finally, my friend suggested that there is a satay noodle shop near his home, which is delicious, cheap and close to us, so there is no need to drive around and waste time.

After hearing this, I agree with you. After all, I'm tired after driving for so long. So, we searched for a while and found the Satay noodles he mentioned.

I still remember when I ordered, he walked in front and asked me what I wanted to eat. I really thought he would invite me. After all, I have worked hard to drive him, and I have to work hard without credit.

When I saw that he was going to invite me, I dared not pay more. I just asked for a portion of Zhongshadi noodles, 15 yuan, and he went to eat a bowl of 25 yuan noodles by himself, adding more seasoning than mine.

We drank all the water in our hands at that time, so I thought he would invite us to dinner, so I couldn't eat for nothing. Let's buy two bottles of water. So, when he asked me what I wanted to eat, I casually said, "Do you want mineral water? I'll buy two bottles of water. "

He nodded with a smile and said, let's drink coke. Mineral water has no taste, so I'm not used to drinking it.

So I immediately turned around and went out to buy water. But who knows, just as I walked to the door, a message came from the cashier: "I have arrived in 25 yuan."

At that time, I was confused. At first, I thought I heard wrong, or someone else paid the 25 yuan money, but there was no one else in the shop at that time, it was really just the two of us. This 25 Qian Yuan was obviously paid by a friend, who only paid his share of the expenses.

When I bought water, I saw him already sitting in the chair. I handed him the water and prepared to sit down. At this moment, I happened to see my wife sitting in front of the checkout counter, looking at us, and I immediately realized that my share had not been settled.

So, I reluctantly went to the cashier, scanned the code and paid the money. After paying the money, my friend also said, "1How to eat in 5 yuan? There are so few ingredients that I can't eat enough. Eat 25 yuan every time. "

I smiled and didn't say much. This meal is boring. After eating, I drove home without seeing him off.

The next day, I asked him to go out for dinner, and then I educated him. When I got home, the more I thought about it, the more unhappy I became. I obviously drove him very hard. Finally, he didn't even invite me to dinner, but I paid for it myself. He still takes it for granted. What is the reason?

So, I complained about it with a junior high school classmate. After listening to this, this classmate also felt that his friend was very ungrateful and should try to get him to invite him to dinner.

I didn't think it was necessary at first, so I didn't care about it with him, because it was over, but my junior high school classmate was brave enough to say that it couldn't end like this, otherwise he would take your kindness for granted in the future and would only keep asking for it from you, and eventually you would be exhausted.

I thought about it for a moment, and it seems reasonable. If I don't express my inner dissatisfaction this time, he will only get worse in the future. So, I listened to my classmates' suggestions and invited my friends out for dinner the next day.

That night, I called him and said that we would go to eat seafood together tomorrow night. The friend was very happy after listening to it, and added: "Where to eat? Do you want to drive me? I don't have a car. "

Suddenly, I felt very uncomfortable, but I still crustily skin of head and told him, OK, I'll drive you then.

In this way, my junior high school classmates and I drove to pick up my friends the next night, and then we found a food stall to eat. When ordering, I have to ask my friends about every dish.

At the beginning of dinner, we talked about our work and life. Later, chatting, junior high school students patted me on the shoulder as planned and said I was brave. When he first came to Xiamen, I also met him at the airport. On the same day, I also invited him to eat a bowl of 15 yuan Satay noodles. He also said that he robbed me for a long time when he paid the money, saying that he knew to pay the money. After all, I drove him, and I still know the basic world.

At that time, I noticed that after listening to it, my friend quickly lowered his head to eat and didn't speak.

Then, junior high school students also asked this friend, saying, "What did you eat yesterday? Will he pay for it? I'm telling you, he's not sensible. He will definitely demand compensation from us. How can he afford the money? If he does it again in the future, no one dares to let him do it. "

After that, all the junior high school students laughed, but my friends still ate with their heads down and didn't dare to look at me without talking.

When I saw this scene, I kicked my classmate under the table, indicating that he had had enough, and I didn't need to say anything more. Then everyone was embarrassed.

Finally, what I didn't expect was that when I was going to pay for dinner, my friend lowered his head and said, I paid for going to the toilet just now, so you don't have to pay any more. This meal is on me.

Then, all three of us looked at each other, and then we all laughed.

During the Spring Festival this year, my friend asked me to drive him twice. After the two trips, he silently invited me to eat a meal, unlike at the beginning, he paid his share of the expenses.

Summary: According to my own example, this classmate said that you would drive to pick him up when he came back from a business trip. However, when he ate, he only paid his share. What should you do?

Personally, I think there are three ways:

The first one: see a person clearly when eating. If you don't care, then contact this friend less. He is the kind of person who only cares about himself and doesn't know how to repay. With such people, you will only be constantly asked for, and eventually you will be very tired. It is a better way to leave early.

The second way: tell the other person clearly what you think and show that you have worked hard to push him. This meal should be treated by him. However, if you say so directly, it will easily lead to a problem, that is, the relationship between them is likely to be destroyed, and even friends or colleagues can't do it in the future.

The third type: ask a third person for help. Sometimes if you want to say something to someone, you don't have to say it yourself. If you say it yourself, it will hurt your feelings. Then you can ask another person to help you. Through another person's words, you can say what you want to say, but you are afraid to say it, so that the other person can know your thoughts and realize his mistakes. Just like me, I have used this trick.

Finally, reciprocity is a basic worldly wisdom. Each of us should understand that when others help you, you should at least treat others to a meal in return. In this way, our feelings will be destroyed and others will be more willing to help you in the future.

If a person only knows how to take in a relationship and never wants to give, then he will end up alone.