0 1 Most rural parents have lived at the bottom of society since childhood, and their knowledge and knowledge are greatly limited. In particular, the concept of raising children to prevent old age is deeply rooted, and the concept of preferring sons to daughters is serious. In their cognition, when a daughter grows up, she wants to serve the family. After marriage, it is the spilled water, and the property is left to the son. Being ill and being hospitalized for the elderly has caused disharmony in her daughter's small family.
Cheng Nannan is the youngest child in the family, and there are two brothers on it. His parents usually do odd jobs on the farm to make a living. After graduating from junior high school, Nan Nan followed her sisters to work in Jiangsu. After four years' salary, 6.5438+0.2 million yuan was handed over to her parents for management. The parents used the money to pay the down payment for the eldest son to buy a house in the city, and also built a two-story building on the homestead of his hometown for the second son to get married and have children.
Nannan met the local young man while working, and they hit it off and got the consent of both parents. However, when they got engaged, Nannan's parents insisted on a bride price of 88,000 yuan. Without the bride price, Nannan would not be allowed to go out to work. For the sake of their son's happiness, the man's parents engaged their children with gifts and bride price. Nannan's parents claimed that the bride price was first saved for the children and then returned to the children when used. There seems to be nothing wrong with it!
When the wedding was held at the man's house, Nannan's father and second brother came to the wedding, but they all came empty-handed. There was no mention of the bride price from beginning to end, which made Nan Nan's parents-in-law very dissatisfied. The original cost of eleven thousand became eleven thousand.
Now that Nannan's children are in kindergarten, parents no longer mention returning the bride price. But the young couple had to buy a second-hand scooter.
During the Chinese New Year holiday, my parents-in-law bought the new year's goods early, and the red envelopes for my son, daughter-in-law and grandson were also prepared early. However, Nannan has to give her parents red envelopes for the New Year, which is too little, and her parents are still not satisfied. They kept clamoring for a "baiwenhang", regardless of her parents' livelihood-perhaps in the eyes of Nannan's parents, her daughter is an ATM.
It is an unavoidable topic that rural parents have no pension. For the growth of their children, they have spent all their savings to buy a house and get married. Once you lose your ability to work, you will be responsible for your children's birth, illness and death.
Wu settled in the city by entering an institution of higher learning. He is the boss and has a younger brother and sister at home. He can't count on his parents to help him buy a house and get married. He must rely on himself. From the beginning of work, it took four years to save enough down payment for the county house, and finally I had my own nest. At work, I met Zhang Zhijuan and Wu, who live in the county, and I had a good impression on Zhang Zhijuan. They talk about love. At first, my parents were a little unhappy. They don't like Wu Jiating's heavy burden, but they can't help their daughter's persistence. Wu Youyang was exposed, and his parents compromised.
At the engagement ceremony, Wu's parents repeatedly stressed that their conditions were limited and they could not give a bride price. They took out a bride price of 20 thousand yuan, no jewelry. Zhang Zhijuan's parents are very considerate of her in-laws. When they got married, they married their daughter with a scooter and 654.38 million yuan in cash as the start-up capital for the young family.
Not long after marriage, my in-laws came to live for a while. When they leave, it's like cleaning the battlefield. They take whatever they can, without mercy. What's more, they sometimes come with seven aunts and eight aunts and gloat that "the house my family bought" makes the young couple very helpless. What's more, parents feel that their eldest son is promising, and they have the obligation to help the family, so that Wu can pay half the cost of his sister's college education, give her living expenses and pay off the mortgage. What can she bring to the baby in the future? It is also a big problem for parents to get sick and seek medical care for the elderly in the future. Wu thought about it.
Parents who have never seen the world think that going to college and taking an examination of civil servants is a matter of honoring their ancestors, pretending to be the emperor's father everywhere, leaving their children helpless and speechless.
Liu Hongbin and his wife have two sons. After graduating from junior high school, the eldest son worked in other places to earn money, build a house, pay a bride price and get married. The second son loves learning more. He was admitted to Central South University after re-reading in junior high school and senior high school. After graduation, I was recruited to work in the Municipal Social Security Bureau and talked about a girlfriend in this city. The woman's family conditions are good and she doesn't want her daughter to work too hard. She bought a wedding room for her daughter. It's not easy to sympathize with in-laws, and she didn't ask for a bride price. The wedding was also organized by her family. It was very grand.
After the marriage, Liu Hongbin boasted to everyone that "how can a son be capable? If he doesn't buy a house, he won't pay a bride price, and his daughter-in-law will marry his son". In jealousy, Liu Hongbin's vanity was satisfied.
What is even more ridiculous is that they are all office workers, waiting for kannika nimtragol to wait on them with her grandson's clothes. The young couple used to do housework together, which was very harmonious. When Liu Hongbin comes, he can't help but ask his son to do something. He always tells his daughter-in-law to do this and that, and compares the eldest daughter-in-law to make the youngest daughter-in-law miserable. What's more, his grandson is lawless and his family is in a mess. Liu Hongbin also praised his grandson as a genius.
The last straw kannika nimtragol sent an ultimatum to Liu Hongbin's youngest son. Life really can't go on like this.
The reason for the above situation is the cognitive limitation of rural parents:
I think raising a daughter is for family service. Before I get married, I want to earn money and go back to China. After marriage, I have to be filial to my parents-it's not easy for us to raise your living daughter! Don't you have an adopted son? The benefit belongs to the son, and the obligation to find the daughter belongs to him!
Without pension, follow-up pension is a big problem. It is possible to return to liberation after illness, and even become poor due to illness.
My son's future is the ceiling of parents' cognition, and I always feel that my son is very arrogant. In fact, there are days behind, there are buildings outside, and there are strong people among the strong.
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