Many of the mothers I know do not work. The men make money and the women look after the house. "The man takes care of the outside and the woman takes care of the house." They all live a happy and harmonious life.

This 85-year-old mother is called Xiaoli (pseudonym), and she is my neighbor and good friend.

Her husband and my husband are colleagues. Her daughter and my son are classmates. On weekdays, our two families get very close.

Xiaoli is 7 years younger than her husband Zhang Qiang (pseudonym). When she was still in college, her husband had already started working.

The two met at a friend's gathering. Xiaoli's beauty, simplicity and kindness attracted Zhang Qiang immediately.

Zhang Qiang is a person with clear goals, down-to-earth and hard-working. He doesn't show any pretense and directly launches a love offensive against Xiaoli.

Xiaoli’s family is in a mountainous area in Hubei Province. She has an older brother at home and the conditions are not very good. She did not receive timely treatment due to a high fever when she was a child. Her hearing and vision were impaired. Her ability to communicate with others and see things at night were worse than those of ordinary people, but this did not affect her daily study and life.

Xiaoli did not refuse Zhang Qiang’s pursuit, but she was also worried: Zhang Qiang is an urbanite, an only son, with a graduate degree and works in a design institute. How could Zhang Qiang fall in love with her with such good conditions? Woolen cloth?

But Zhang Qiang is so down-to-earth. He fell in love with Xiaoli at first sight and was ready to marry her. He said: "You don't have to work anymore. We will get married as soon as we graduate from university."

He kept his promise. Before Xiaoli graduated from university, he bought a house in Wuhan and waited for her. .

Xiaoli’s university graduation certificate and marriage certificate were obtained on the same day. That day, she completed the transition from student to wife.

Soon after the marriage, Xiaoli became pregnant. She was thin and had a hard time getting pregnant and giving birth to a baby.

The child was born two months prematurely. He is very weak and often sick. Zhang Qiang's work nature and frequent business trips make him unable to take care of his children. My mother-in-law came over to help.

My mother-in-law is a capable person. She runs a shop outside and does not have much time to take care of Xiaoli. Therefore, Xiaoli still has to do many things by herself.

During this period, there must have been all kinds of hardships and hardships, but Xiaoli endured them silently without complaining to Zhang Qiang.

Xiao Li has taken good care of her daughter. Not only is she beautiful and good at studying, she is also obedient and sensible, and can sing and dance well.

My mother-in-law only stayed at Xiaoli’s house for a few months before she went back. She said, “I can’t get used to living there!”

After her daughter went to kindergarten at the age of three, Xiaoli also thought about it. When she went out to work, she went out for a run and applied for several companies. In the end, they were all in sales, and the salary was very low, less than 2,000 yuan.

When she went home and told Zhang Qiang, he shook his head and said, "You want to do it for 2,000 yuan? It's just a small amount of money and time, so it's not worth it. Don't go."

< p>Xiao Li was originally unsure, but after her husband said this, she even lost her courage, so she settled down to be a housewife at home and never thought about work again.

After that, her father-in-law became ill and was hospitalized and passed away. She became pregnant and gave birth to a second child and took care of the child... There were always endless things to worry about at home, and she had no time or energy to work outside.

In this way, 15 years have passed in a flash. One of Xiaoli’s two children is in junior high school and the other is in elementary school. She is still busy with her family all day long. Zhang Qiang, on the other hand, travels on business all year round and can hardly help the family except giving all the money he earns to Xiaoli.

However, although Xiaoli never worked a day, Zhang Qiang never looked down on her because of it. Zhang Qiang is also very satisfied with this division of family labor.

Zhang Qiang’s cards are all in Xiaoli’s hand. Xiaoli has absolute control over the money in the family.

Zhang Qiang is very family-oriented and takes all the money he earns home. Xiaoli is also very good at housekeeping. Not only is she good at taking care of children and doing housework and cooking, she is also very frugal and rarely buys clothes for herself.

In these years, Zhang Qiang worked alone instead of his parents. They gave birth to two children and bought three apartments. Their life was prosperous and prosperous!

This 90-year-old mother is called Peipei (pseudonym), and her husband Li Ming (pseudonym) is one year younger than her.

They were high school classmates and had been dating since high school.

After graduating from high school, I didn’t go to college, so I went home and got married. I was 19 years old and couldn't get a marriage certificate. I just applied for it and then went to get a replacement marriage certificate later.

The conditions of both companies are pretty good. Pepe's parents were both in business, and their old house was demolished, so they had to make up a lot of money.

Li Ming's family is also in the door and window business. After graduating from high school, he inherited his father's business and began to learn to make money.

The house in Wuhan is more than 140 square meters, and each family contributed half of it. Soon after the marriage, the man's parents began to urge him to have a baby.

Pipei and her husband also like children very much. With nothing else to worry about, she regards having children as her top priority.

In the next 10 years, she gave birth to 5 daughters at an average rate of one every 2 years.

Not long ago, she became pregnant again, but unfortunately she lost the baby accidentally when she was two months old. She was ready to take good care of her body and get pregnant with another child.

In these years, she has been giving birth to and raising children, and never thought of going out to work. Five children and a husband are enough to keep her busy.

Her family’s financial situation has also undergone some changes over the years. My father-in-law suffered a stroke, and my mother-in-law was also in poor health.

It is becoming increasingly difficult to run a business at home. Her husband has to run for the family's livelihood every day and has no time to help her take care of the house, so she basically supports the entire family by herself.

Since the family is like this, why does she still have a baby?

"Because I want a son!" She answered simply.

My husband’s family is relatively traditional. He feels that his daughter will get married in the future, and she still needs a son to carry on the family line, so she insists on giving birth to a son.

So, for their family's "childbirth plan", Pepe has been a housewife for 10 years, and depending on the situation, she will continue to do so.

"I will never think about working in this life. When I bring them up, I will be too old to work anymore," Pepe said.

Yes, as a mother, Pepe is great. I believe that these daughters can grow up well under her careful cultivation and repay her well in the future.

After so many years, Li Ming and Peipei's love has not diminished. They have the same goal and work together for their families.

Whenever he has time, Li Ming takes Peipei and his five daughters out to play. The whole family enjoys themselves happily, which is enviable.

A mother born in the 1970s wanted to work, but became a housewife due to her physical condition

She and her husband have only one child, who is already in junior high school. My husband is the marketing director of a listed company and travels on business all year round.

Her husband has a very good income, with an annual salary of several million and dividends. Therefore, she does not need to go out to work.

In fact, before she met her husband, she had a job, and she was doing very well.

At that time, she was the person in charge of an educational institution. She had a degree, had been abroad, and spoke excellent English. She was a core figure in the educational institution.

After marriage, she did not give up her job, but took care of her family while working. The reason why she chose to resign was a quarrel with her husband.

She was 30 years old when she married her husband, who was 8 years older than her, and they both wanted children. Therefore, they started preparing for pregnancy as soon as they got married.

But four years have passed and she has seen many doctors, but there is no movement in her stomach.

Later, through traditional Chinese medicine, I finally got pregnant, but at 5 months, I miscarried for no apparent reason. She was in pain and her husband was also very sad about this.

Her husband advised her: "Why don't you stop working and take care of yourself at home. You can't make much money from your job, and you've ruined your child!"

When Liu Wen heard this, she became angry: "Did you lose the child because of work? I have been very careful and have turned down a lot of work, and you actually said that to me!"

Her husband saw that she was angry, He quickly explained: "That's not what I meant. You are in poor health, and you are too tired from working and worrying about family affairs. The money I earn is enough for the family. We are married, and what is mine is yours. I don't want you to be like this Tired! We all hope to have a child so that we can have more happiness at home!”

After listening to her husband’s words, Liu Wen calmed down and thought about it, so she quit her job and took care of herself at home. Good health and ready for pregnancy.

However, after not going to work, Liu Wen was not idle either. She loved painting and dancing, so she joined a group of like-minded sisters. She painted and danced with them every day and was very happy.

My husband also hired a live-in nanny to take care of Liu Wen and talk to her.

Maybe it was because she felt relaxed and happy physically and mentally. Not long after, Liu Wen became pregnant and gave birth to a son at full term.

After that, Liu Wen became a worried mother, focusing all her thoughts on her son. All her husband's money is given to her, and she is not short of money. It is her task to educate her son well.

Her son was admitted to a key junior high school and excelled in all aspects. She was very satisfied. This was a different sense of value than work.

"Will you still go out to work?" I asked her.

"It depends on the situation! Working is not something I have to do now. There is no financial burden, so I just do things according to my mood." She said.

Yes, she does not have the urgency to work to support her family, nor does she have the idea of ??realizing her own value through work. For the rest of her life, she just wants to live a happy and healthy life!

Now, she paints, dances, and takes beautiful photos every day, and her life is full of flavor!

There are not only the above three mothers around me who live a happy life without working, but there are many more. Their family situations are different, but their happiness is the same. To sum up the reasons why they are happy without working, the main points are as follows:

1. Regarding the family division of labor model of "men take charge of the outside and women take charge of the house", both husband and wife fully recognize and are very responsible.

The husband works hard outside to earn money, and the wife takes care of the housework at home. Each plays its role, achieving the effect of 1+1 greater than 2, and the family becomes more and more prosperous.

2. The family enjoys economic prosperity and the husband respects his wife very much. Although the wife does not work, the husband leaves all the family income to his wife for management and has great trust in her.

This is very important. If a wife does not have a job, she will be worse off financially and will inevitably feel inferior. If the husband continues to control money very tightly, the wife will be psychologically unbalanced. Therefore, husband's respect and generosity are very important.

3. The wife is confident and independent. "The man is in charge of the outside and the woman is in charge of the house" is just a different division of labor, which will not affect the family status and relationship.

The point lies in the wife. Not working does not mean she loses influence at home. Taking care of the family is also very important. When the family is stable, the husband can work peacefully outside the home. When a wife recognizes her own value, she will happily do her part and enjoy her own happy time at the same time.

In short, no matter what kind of relationship between husband and wife and division of labor in the family, as long as both parties trust each other, respect each other, and work together, the family will get better and better!