How to control people's psychology? People are the most complex creatures in the world. In addition, different people will have different feelings and influences, and people will have very obvious emotional and emotional changes, just like someone will want to control others. The following share how to control people's psychology.

How to control people's psychology 1 If you want to "control" a person, you have to "be at arm's length" with him.

Many newly appointed managers believe that as long as they treat their employees better, employees will respect themselves and be good to themselves.

This idea is actually incorrect. Because you are too kind to a person, then this person will think that you are weak and bullying, and you will take your "good" for granted.

In fact, we don't need to be too nice to others, but we need to be "at arm's length" with him. To put it bluntly, it is to give a slap first, then a candy, so that he can understand your principles first, and then let him know your goodness.

What is the difference between such an approach and a good approach to others in terms of documentary? In fact, the difference lies in being kind to others unilaterally, which is a kind of "wishful thinking" behavior, and there is no principle at all.

And you show the bottom line first, and then clarify your attitude, which can make others feel afraid to offend you easily, and will respect you.

From a psychological point of view, when others respect or fear you, if you appease them with "benefits", then others will only be completely convinced of you.

If you want to "control" a person, you must know how to "draw a pie"

In today's society, there is actually such a network term, painting pie.

Why "draw a pie"? That is, in front of others, you drew a cake, but this cake is not real, but fake. However, others believe that this cake really exists.

Fake things, why can others believe?

In popular psychology, there is a saying that when a person feels a little hope in his heart, that person will show a sincere attitude.

To put it bluntly, if you make him feel hope, he will believe you and regard you as an idol or an example. In this way, your purpose of drawing pie is completed. However, whether you can turn a fake pie into a real one depends on your attitude.

At that time, Cao Cao only said, "There is Merlin ahead", and the soldiers rallied their confidence and moved on. In the end, this belief finally saved Cao Cao's army from danger.

It can be said that the lowest cost control is to "draw a pie".

If you want to "control" a person, you must know how to change his ideas.

In life, why are many elderly people deceived by some people who sell health care products?

In life, why are so many people sold and help others count money?

In life, why is this person's interests obviously damaged, but he is still willing to accept the reality?

In fact, the occurrence of any situation is closely related to people's ideas. In other words, if you want to control a person, you must first start from his ideas.

Take the elderly in the first question for example, they were brainwashed by some people when they were listening to them. In this way, they will blindly buy health products.

From the psychological point of view, the so-called brainwashing is nothing more than putting an idea that belongs to oneself into other people's minds through some internal and external factors, so as to achieve the purpose of replacing the other people's ideas.

It seems difficult to change one's mind. But in fact, in the eyes of some psychologists, this is a particularly simple thing.

Therefore, people feel that a psychologist's crime is more terrible than anyone else.

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I believe many people will think about such a question. In life, they are not managers. Why do they need to do these things?

Whether managers or ordinary people, the people and things to be controlled will eventually exist. In this way, only when you are better psychologically and tactically can you stand better in this world.

What's more, the struggle between people is increasing now. At this time, we need to know how to protect ourselves. The self-protection itself is to see through other people's practices, so as to counter others at critical moments.

You know, management and control are the normal state of life, but also the normal state of enterprises and circles. In this way, knowing how to control is beneficial and harmless to people.

How to control people's psychology 2 1 and forced choice

Let your child drink milk, she may refuse. If asked whether to drink it in a colored cup or a glass, she will choose to drink it in a colored cup.

2. Cai Ganike effect.

There is always a song in my brain, because my brain tends to think about unresolved things. This is called the Cai Ganike effect. If you want to end it, just think about its ending.

3, the principle of closeness

When a group of people are together, people can't help but pay attention to those who feel closest.

4. foot in the door effect

Asking someone to help you a lot may be rejected. It will be easier if you ask him to help you a little first, and then let him help you a lot. This involves credit accumulation and the closed door effect.

5, the closed door effect

I asked my friend for help, but I was rejected. I asked him for a small favor later, so he was embarrassed to refuse. For example, if you want to borrow 50 yuan from your friend, you should borrow 100 yuan from him first, but it was rejected. Then you asked him to borrow 50 yuan, so you were embarrassed to refuse that day.

6. Silence effect

If you ask someone a question and they don't answer, don't worry, just keep silent and make eye contact, and they will continue to talk.

7. Broken window effect

If the window of a house is broken, no one will repair it. Soon, other windows will be broken inexplicably.

8. diffusion of responsibility

A person who needs assistance from the public present will share the responsibility of helping those who ask for help, resulting in scattered responsibilities. Everyone shares very little responsibility, and the bystander may not even realize his own share, thus creating a kind of psychology: I will not save, but others will save, resulting in a collective indifference.

9. Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups. Needless to say.

10, Rosenthal effect

If teachers love some students and have high hopes for them, after a period of time, students feel the care, love and encouragement of teachers, and often treat teachers with a positive attitude, treat learning and treat their own behavior, so that students are more self-respecting, confident and self-reliant, which induces a positive passion. These students often make the progress that teachers expect.

On the contrary, students who are often ignored and discriminated against by teachers will feel the teacher's eccentricity in their manners and expressions over time, and will also treat teachers with a negative attitude, treat their own learning, ignore or refuse to listen to the teacher's requirements. These students often get worse day by day and finally become social undesirable elements, which is essentially a psychological hint.

1 1, fixed action patterns

When we ask others for help, if we can give a reason, then we are more likely to get help, because in people's fixed action patterns, it is always more worthwhile to help with a reason.

12, the principle of reciprocity

In social communication, people always uphold the principle of mutual benefit and don't like to owe others, so give others some benefits first and you will gain more.

13, similarity principle

People always like to get along with people who are similar to themselves.

14, the principle of social identity

In this society, 5% are the strong, but 95% are the weak and follow the rules.

The strong create themselves and principles, while the weak always seek recognition. For example, when making decisions, they always seek the opinions of others, for fear that they are different from others. Because most people are weak, social recognition is universal.

15, the principle of authority

People are more willing to trust authoritative institutions, such as: a certain university professor, a certain research institute, and the police uniform of the uncle.

How to control one's psychology 3. How to control one's own mentality.

1, control your mood with wisdom

Fairness, dissatisfaction, and injustice should also try to calm themselves down first. Maybe you have accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction, but you can't shake it out at this time, but you should talk about the problem in vain. Being too emotional will not clearly explain your reasons, and it will also make the other person mistakenly think that you are dissatisfied with him rather than his arrangement, so you should find another way out.

Enhancing our sense of wisdom can make us think more about things, think more about others, think more about the results of things, take them seriously and deal with them carefully. When you want to argue with others, you can also remind yourself repeatedly: don't be angry, be calm. In this way, we can curb emotional impulses and avoid bad results.

2. Learn some ways to curb bad temper.

Post warnings such as getting angry and controlling anger in the bedroom or on the desk to remind yourself to be calm.

When you feel excited, in order to avoid generate immediately, you can change the subject or do something else to distract your attention, and transfer your thoughts and feelings to other activities to relax your flustered mood. For example, leave the scene quickly, do other things, talk to someone, take a walk, or run outside for a few laps, so as to release the energy aroused by anger and calm down.

There are many things that can be handled in many ways. When things happen, you should be flexible, don't be so rigid, and sometimes you can give in, giving the other party a chance to change their minds and attitudes. When choosing a method, you should think about the effect of things.

3, through psychological transposition to suppress the mood.

Psychological transposition means thinking from the other person's point of view and exchanging roles and positions with others. As the saying goes: look at your heart. Through psychological transposition, we can understand other people's feelings and thoughts by playing the role of others, which is conducive to preventing the occurrence of bad conscience and eliminating the bad conscience that has already occurred.

When a colleague offends himself, you can also think about it from the colleague's point of view, and you may feel that the colleague's behavior is excusable. In this way, the bad conscience will weaken and disappear.

4. Learn to control your mood by sublimation.

The so-called sublimation, that is, connecting negative feelings with some bright spots in the mind, turns other bad feelings such as pain, worry and anxiety into positive and beneficial actions. For example, when our work performance is not ideal, we may feel depressed, but assuming that we are not willing to lag behind and fail, we can cheer up our bodies and catch up, thus turning negative feelings into positive actions.

5. Pay attention to the place where you complain

People sometimes naturally change their opinions, but if someone says in public that he is wrong, he will get annoyed and become more stubborn, so that he will defend his opinions wholeheartedly. It's not how precious the insight itself is, but that his self-esteem has been threatened.

When venting your feelings, you should use informal places more than formal places, try to talk to your boss and colleagues privately, and avoid making public comments and expressing dissatisfaction. Doing so will not only leave room for manoeuvre for yourself, even if the opinions put forward are wrong, it will not damage your image in the public mind, but also help maintain the majesty of your boss and prevent others from falling into passivity and embarrassment.