Forward: If you love someone, you should concentrate.
According to the statistics of Shanghai Statistics Bureau in 2007, there were 367,000 married couples and 6,543,800 divorced couples in Shanghai in 2007! That is, the divorce rate in Shanghai in 2007 was 33.87%! So now more people begin to remember and cherish the people who have lived with them!
Maybe you don't want to forward these short articles when you see them, or you can forward them as you like, but it's worth reading. Those of us who are numb to life, go back to reflect and share together.
The love of that year was missed, please don't wait any longer.
Yuehua finally separated from Dawei.
At first Yuehua didn't know how to tell him, because David loved her very much, but Yuehua didn't want to be with him for a long time. Not that David is bad for himself, but what's the use of being good for himself?
David is slow. He never knows sweet words. He won't give Yuet Hua roses for her birthday, and he won't invite her to a candlelight dinner. The food at home is delicious and affordable, but not romantic. Yes, David is a man who knows nothing about romance!
In fact, the main reason is not these, but that David is poor and his family is poor. In order to save money to buy a house all day, I buy clothes at reduced prices in shopping malls, and even food is rarely bought in the market. No big house, no car, nothing, and the little sisters around me are far better than themselves. Don't say women are vain. What woman doesn't long for a better life? But David can give nothing but a heart that loves himself.
However, Qi Ming is different. He is tall and has a pair of emotional eyes. Yuehua knows that those eyes are so emotional because of herself. Qi Ming will tell himself a lot of jokes, make himself laugh my head off, and gently say some sweet words to make his heart sweet, and there will be chocolates, flowers and candlelight dinners. Qi Ming is a very romantic person, who will take Yuehua to watch the sunrise and sunset, listen to music and drink coffee, and buy various gifts to make Yuehua happy. With Qi Ming, Yuehua really feels very happy.
I don't know when the balance in people's minds has greatly deviated from Qi Ming. The more I think David is bad, the more I despise him, even though I used to admire his cooking best. I'm really excited where there is a candlelight dinner. It's just that Yuehua doesn't know how to speak, because David loved himself for five years and took care of himself for five years, which is a long time. After falling in love for five years, Elliot Ngok felt unbearable and left Dawei like this. David says you can have nothing, but you can't live without her. David got drunk on his wedding night. Yuehua knows what he said is true, and she is sure that he really loves her.
The breakup was proposed by David. Fate is such a coincidence, the world is so big, but Yuehua and Qi Ming are far away, hiding in such a remote town for tryst, and David will catch them. David went to that small town to ask an old classmate for some chrysanthemums and make a chrysanthemum pillow for Yuehua. I haven't slept well these days, and I always say I have a headache. I heard that chrysanthemum pillow can treat migraine, so David went to this suburban town to ask his old classmates for chrysanthemum pillow. Who knows, when passing by the coffee shop on the island, Yueyue and Qi Ming snuggled together through the glass window.
David's heart is very painful, but he has no impulse or hysteria. He just turned around silently, still silently asked his classmates for a big bag of chrysanthemums and then went home. However, Yuehua and Qi Ming were scared and didn't know what to do. Qi Ming was on pins and needles. Yuehua made up her mind after a panic. The somebody else Qi Ming rich good to me, willing to spend money for me. You can't watch your wife. It's useless. You can't blame others.
Go home, it's time for a showdown. Yuehua is waiting for the storm. David just asked softly, "Have you thought it over? Have you really thought about it? " Yuehua bowed her head and said nothing. David sighed: "OK, OK, you think it over, I won't stop you, I will let you go." David choked out the last sentence.
David cooked the last supper for Yuehua. Every dish is Yuehua's favorite, and every dish is full of David's affection. Yuehua suddenly doesn't want to leave Dawei. Although Qi Ming will spend time with herself, she will never give up her hobbies. Qi Ming always orders according to her own preferences, knowing that Yuet-yueh can't eat spicy food because her stomach is bad, but she never agrees to accommodate Yuet-yueh, let alone cook a delicious meal for Yuet-yueh herself. My eyes get wet when I think about Yuehua.
But David refused to give Yuehua another chance: "I'm sorry, Yueyue, I can tolerate your bad temper and unreasonable troubles, and I can tolerate anything." Because I love you. But I can't accept that you are good with others. Only this, I can't accept it. Month, I'm sorry ... "
It's over. It's over. Another relationship soon ended.
As a result of getting along with each other day and night, Qi Ming has more unbearable defects in Yuehua. Qi Ming made a lot of money, but spent it faster. He is a moonlight clan, but he spent all his money before the middle of the month. Qi Ming has been eating spicy food for a long time, and she refuses to think about her aching stomach. She couldn't sleep and refused to read to her. She has a headache and can't sleep. Qi Ming wouldn't gently press her temple ... holding the chrysanthemum pillow from David, Yuehua cried very sadly.
Three years later, Yuehua and her friends went to see David. Not husband and wife, but classmates after all. Three years of high school, even if you study repeatedly, is still a school and a class. I heard that David's baby is full moon, so naturally I should congratulate him. I didn't want to go at first, but it's more obvious if I don't want to go. I feel guilty and haven't forgotten him. Yuehua doesn't want others to see her loneliness. David's wife was so happy that no one told her that Yuehua in front of her was the ex-wife of her dear husband. She thanked David's old classmates for their enthusiasm and insisted on keeping them for dinner. David's kitchen, of course. Watch.
David in an apron is busy, and Yuehua's eyes are a little wet. Such happiness should have belonged to her, but she was carried away by the so-called romance. During the dinner, everyone had a good time and praised Wei's good craftsmanship. Suddenly, my friend Xue Rui suddenly said, "David, I remember your old specialty was pork ribs with salt and pepper. Why are the ribs so tasteless now, but the fish is well cooked? If I remember correctly, you hate the smell of fish. You always said it was suspicious. There is no fish in your menu. " David rubbed his wife's short hair obsessively: "No way, my wife loves it." "I was so distressed that I pursed my mouth without eating fish for a meal and had to learn to cook." The wife smiled shyly and contentedly, twisted David's arm and muttered, "shameless!" " Yuehua's heart is like a knife, and she never likes to eat fish. Salted ribs used to be her favorite. In a blink of an eye, the new people became old people, and the delicacy on the table changed from salty ribs to sweet and sour fish. I can't blame David, because I didn't cherish and give up my happiness.
Walking on the way home, the moonlight is like water, and neon lights are flashing all over the street, tempting couples of intimate young men and women. Yuehua's eyes are indifferent, but the warm light transmitted from the house hurts her eyes and her heart. In this warm moment of thousands of lights, she can never find the man who once loved her deeply. Nearby is a billboard of a restaurant, with only the words "eat all over the world or go home" on the big sign. In the distance, Dick and Cowboy sang hysterically and painfully, "How much love can come back, how many people are willing to wait ..."
No one can love again, and no one is willing to wait. If you miss it, you will miss it forever!
Don't let that bird fly (a great article)
On the 0/0 anniversary of my husband's wedding, a friend who moved to Canada gave me a gift → "A game CD" named "Don't let that bird fly". I'm not used to playing games, so I keep it as a souvenir.
One day, my 8-year-old son rummaged in my study and found this game CD. After playing, my son said to me, "Mom, there is a bird here. If it is not good, it will fly away from the window. Once you fly away, the game is ruined. "
At the reminder of my son, I turned on the computer and executed the CD. Only then did I know that it was a large-scale game software developed for adults, with a total investment of 8500.
Ten thousand dollars.
After the game is opened, you will see a royal mansion. There are various living facilities in the mansion.
After the player enters, he can live here as the owner. If you want to play golf, you can go to the golf course; If you want to read a book, you can walk into the study; If you want coffee, you can.
Let the servant give it to you; If you want to hold a dance, you can invite 100 world-class movie stars including Madonna. Do you want to travel? The car is at the door; On the bus, along the road at the door, you can go to any place in the world, such as Egyptian, French, China and so on. If you have a lover, you can also secretly ask him to the nearby seaside or Columbia University in South America.
Grassland.
In short, here, you can live as you please, and you can do as you please.
But unlike reality, there is a bird flying in this mansion. It flies from the living room to the bedroom, from the bedroom to the study, to the dining room, with a basket in its mouth.
Every room in the mansion. This bird has a special feature: whether you are traveling, studying at home or dealing with business in the company, you must not forget to put things in this bird's basket.
If you forget, at some point, it will fly out of the window. Once this happens, there will be such a picture on the screen: the mansion collapses and weeds are overgrown; In the sunset, a lonely figure slowly disappeared into the darkness.
So, what should I put in that basket to prevent the birds from flying away and the mansion from collapsing? There is a menu in the game, which contains 152 kinds of daily necessities and daily behaviors including money, flowers, laughter, tears and kisses. Helix spent three years collecting from 500,000 golden-married elderly people around the world. Everything, every action, is given different time values according to the number of votes obtained by the 500,000 golden-married old people, some representing one month, and some only representing three minutes. As for which represents a month and which represents three minutes, it is not clear above, and it is entirely up to the players to judge according to their own cognition.
I have been fascinated by this game since I opened it. As long as I am free, I will play for a while. At first, I often made that mansion disappear from the screen because I didn't know what to put in the bird's basket.
Once, I really didn't know how to serve food, so I just picked a kiss and put it in the basket. The result was a big surprise. It kept me reading in the big study all afternoon. Several times, it even put the basket on my desk and then jumped into it to take a nap. Another time, I gave it a close hug and farewell, and then went to Itza, Chen Chi, the site of the ancient Mayan city. This time, it was even more unexpected. Half a month later, I came back. Not only did the bird not fly away, but it also greeted me warmly when I arrived at my door.
What kind of bird is this? I gave it money and it only stayed at home for three minutes. I gave it a flower, but it can stay for three hours.
Later, I finally found out that it is a married bird, and it has many humble saviors. A kiss, a smile, a hug, a caring word, a small gift and a short farewell can all put it behind you. Now I have been able to play this game skillfully. The more I play it, the more I feel that it is no longer a game, but the feelings and discoveries of 500,000 golden married elderly people in their marriage life.
It tells me that a trivial compliment, a cup of hot tea casually handed over, a rose 10 yuan, all these trivial things in daily life have magical power to nourish marriage.
Not long ago, a friend got married. I gave this CD as a gift to others.
I think I should let more people know some truth in marriage from this game.
Take your heart home, don't sell the essence of your life's hard work to the company, what you leave to your family is rubbish.
Don't misplace your happy and warm hands.
Many times, when choosing a partner, many people often think about it, because they are afraid of making a wrong decision for a while and seeing the wrong person, which will cause lifelong regret.
Nobel Prize in Literature winner Bernard Shaw said, "At this moment on earth, there are about 20,000 people who are suitable to be your life partner, depending on which one you meet first. If you have established a deep relationship of mutual understanding and trust with the former person before the second ideal partner appears, the latter will become your good friend, but if you have not cultivated a deep relationship with the former person, your feelings will easily waver and change your mind until you meet one of these ideal partner candidates. "
Falling in love with someone is not by hard work, but by accident, which is God's arrangement, but "loving someone continuously" depends on "hard work". In the management of love, the elements of smooth operation are communication, understanding, tolerance and self-control (self-control in the face of temptation). A lot of people are always? Confused and distressed by "chance", I keep thinking, wanting and struggling, but I forget that the ability to manage my feelings is the key to happiness.
So don't ask who my Mr.Right is, but n ask how hard I can work and how far I can grow in the current cooperative relationship. If I don't cultivate the ability to manage happiness, even if there is a Mr. Right around you, happiness will still be missed, but I will live in hesitation and regret. Isn't this the experience and mentality of many "love nihilism"?
If you have a long-term partner at the moment, don't hesitate. In our feelings, it is often difficult to detect a trap, that is, "kiss their own flesh and blood, slow down their humiliation", which is the iron law of diminishing marginal benefits in economics. The longer I spend with you, the more likely I am to be numb and neglected, and the fresh "opportunity" is always so touching and lovely.
In dealing with feelings, there will inevitably be friction and unintentional injuries, and the people who offend themselves the most times are of course the people who have been with us the longest and closest. And the new love, and haven't started to have a chance to offend you, plus he deliberately please, so how cute the new love is, how annoying the old love is. But don't forget, there is always uncertainty in new love, and there is a rare sense of familiarity, certainty and trust in old love. Don't lose yourself casually in the accidental "chance" and put your happy and warm hand in the wrong place.
Therefore, Bernard Shaw's words are to remind lovers not to be too obsessed with finding the only one, but to use their spirit in learning to manage happiness. At the same time, they also remind us that if we are lucky enough to meet a rare partner, we should not be half-hearted, because we never know when we will meet 20 thousand of them in our life, so we should know how to bless, cherish our blessings and live in the present.
When you receive this letter, send it as soon as possible to at least five people.
If you are unmarried, you will get an unexpectedly good marriage.
If you get married, your married life will be happier and happier.