"Mom is Superman" aired in the third season. It was broadcast from last week's pilot movie. Among the four celebrity moms, Eva Huang caused the most controversy on the Internet.

In my mother's college exam, I asked Eva Huang's son Andy, who is his favorite among his parents and younger brother? Eva Huang confidently replied that it was mom.

But Andy answered his brother without hesitation, and then added that there was grandma. The next sentence is to emphasize that his favorite person is grandma. This answer made Eva Huang say "very hurt."

Children don't lie. Whoever is kind to him, who loves him, of course, likes this person best. It can be seen from Andy's answer that grandma is the one who loves him the most.

In the first episode of this week, grandma, who is over 80 years old, has been taking care of Andy personally, even peeling pomegranates and making Andy open his mouth to eat. The interaction between grandparents and grandchildren is full of love.

Andy's expression suddenly became dignified when the program set a task to let him leave his grandmother's house within an hour and go back to his mother to live with her for two days.

After a pause, Andy said, "I don't want to go." Then, he turned to his grandmother and said, "Grandma, I don't want to go." It can be seen from Andy's expression that he has a deep attachment to his grandmother.

Andy, who went back to his mother, refused. He complained that his mother didn't prepare a rich breakfast and didn't accept his mother's suggestion that he should play a policeman.

Even when his mother tried to hold his hand, he just walked away. No matter what his mother suggested, he simply answered "no" and then kept silent and refused to communicate with his mother.

Eva Huang said in an interview: "I didn't take him alone. I wonder what will happen. I feel quite collapsed. " Andy is even more blunt: "I don't want her to accompany me. I don't like her company. "

I noticed a detail. In all the photos of Eva Huang interacting with Andy, Andy didn't say a word from his mother. Apart from the blood relationship between mother and son, I really don't see any love between them.

Whenever Andy refuses to cooperate with Eva Huang, I can feel her embarrassment and helplessness, but who can blame? If you don't give your child enough love, don't expect your child to love you.

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Some people say that Eva Huang is a star after all, and it is understandable that he missed Andy's growth because of his busy work. But when you can't grow up with your children, you really can't expect them to be close to you.

Two days ago, my cousin chatted with me on WeChat, saying that she felt depressed. If she didn't talk to me again, she would be depressed. I listened to what she said so carefully that I quickly asked her what was going on.

She sent me a long speech, and it took me three times to get the point. It turned out that my cousin was too tired from work the night before and felt dizzy, so he had a rest on the sofa.

My cousin's son, tianhao, who is in Grade Five, is doing his homework. After a while, tianhao came out to go to the toilet. My cousin took the opportunity to say to tianhao, "Son, mom is dizzy. What should I do? "

Tianhao walked into the bathroom without looking back, leaving a sentence: "How do I know?" These four words hit my cousin's heart like four heavy hammers, and every nerve ached faintly.

Why is Tianhao so indifferent to his mother? Is tianhao born perfect? I'm afraid not. He is very polite to his relatives and friends at home, and he is also very measured in what he says and does. He is not such a heartless child.

However, tianhao grew up with his grandparents. Cousins sometimes can't see Tian Hao for a month in order to earn money. Even now that tianhao has grown up and lives with his cousin, he is indifferent.

I asked my cousin what she did later. She said that the more she thought about it, the angrier she got. She didn't have a headache, so she ran directly to Tianhao's room, grabbed Tianhao's ear and taught him a lesson.

The WeChat voice sent by my cousin is particularly harsh to me. She said: "This little rabbit is simply a cold-blooded animal. I work hard to earn money to buy him a big house to live in. Is it so difficult for me? "

Finally, my cousin whispered, "Do you think I really did something wrong? Although I made money, Tianzhu has a bad relationship with me, and I am not happy to make so much money! "

I thought about it and said to her, "What children need most from their parents is not money, but a lot of love. You are indifferent to your children. How can you expect them to love you and care about you? "

Love is mutual, especially between parents and children. If parents don't give their children enough love first, how can children have love to pass on to you?

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Scott said in The Road Few People Walk that only those children who are bathed in the love of their parents can develop their minds healthily.

Children who get enough love from their parents are not only more secure, but also more willing to give back to their parents. In the program, Huo Siyan and her son, uh-huh, are such an interactive and loving mother and son.

Although the work is equally busy, Huo Siyan said that he usually spends more time with Uh-huh, and it is easier to take care of his son alone. She will express her love for her son at an appropriate time.

Huo Siyan teaches uh-huh to play the harmonica. After playing a song "Missing", he asked, "Do you know who I am thinking?" Mm-hmm. Without thinking, he said, "Me!"

Mm-hmm's answer revealed his confidence in maternal love. He knows that his mother loves him, because she gives him enough love in daily life, so he is so confident.

I got my mother's love, well, of course, I gave my mother more love. He said that her mother was a little princess, and her mouth was so sweet that Huo Siyan could not help blushing.

This loving interaction between Huo Siyan and Uh-huh will happen at any time. On the other hand, between Eva Huang and her mother, there was only a full screen of embarrassment, and Andy didn't even dare to shout for her mother.

Mothers and children are the most natural people in the world, but it doesn't mean that every pair of mothers and children can get each other's love.

You have to give love before you can get love, just like the truth that "you have to give and you have to get", but many parents don't understand this. They think that children should love them when they have children.

There is nothing wrong with the child being born to you, but the child will naturally not love you. Only when you give your child enough love and let him feel the flow of love will he return your love.

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Psychologist Wu Zhihong said in Why Families Hurt People that the ideal parents have one characteristic: they can give us unconditional love.

Even if you can't be an ideal parent, at least give your child unconditional love, let your child grow up in love, and have the courage and ability to face life with enough love.

Parents should express your love for their children in time.

Since the day my son was born, I have been holding him in my arms, kissing his little face, looking into his eyes and saying to him, "You are the favorite of mom and dad!" " You are our baby! "

When my son grows up, I will say to him when he is in trouble, "Don't be afraid, mom and dad are with you."

I always pay attention to his every move. I know all his thoughts. Even he sometimes says in surprise, "Mom, how do you know what I'm thinking?" I will say, "That's because I love you!" "

My son has grown into a little man over eight years old now. His personality is cheerful and lively, and he is calm and calm, because he knows that he has parents who love him the most and will always encourage him to support him.

Parents should express your love for their children in the process of their growth, and let him know that mom and dad are the people who love him the most and are his strongest backing.

Parents should spend as much time as possible with their children.

Some people may say that I often tell my child that I love him, but he resists. What should I do? That's because your love is perfunctory and children can feel it.

Love for children is more than words. You should spend as much time with him as possible, read picture books with him, play with Thomas and build Lego Castle together.

In the process of accompanying your child, you can gradually understand your child's personality and know his personality characteristics, and then you will give your child more love and support.

Don't use busy work as an excuse. Time flies and children grow faster. Please be sure to spend more time with your children when they need their parents' company most.

Companionship is the foundation. On the premise of companionship, parents will let love flow between you and your child, and the child will feel your love and give you more love in return.

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Some people say that a person's growth process is the process of becoming himself, and love is the most important factor in this process. What kind of love we provide to children, children will grow up in a way that adapts to this kind of love.

A child who grows up bathed in love is not only more capable of facing his own life, but also more grateful for the upbringing of his parents and establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship with them.

If you want to harvest a child who knows how to love himself and his parents, please give him enough love first.